Saturday, August 13, 2016

Finding Your Strength

Some folks hold onto resentment and it lies right under the surface, just waiting to erupt at a moment's notice. They carry around grudges forever, and never let go. 

That can't be healthy, and I truly can't imagine living in their heads. 

Via
I absolutely hate to argue. I avoid conflict as much as possible. Life's too short to put yourself in a situation where you know things are going to erupt into an argument. No, thank you - I'll pass. 

I think I am, in general, a very positive person. I guess the glass is half full for me. I have had so much stress and pain in my life, yet I always came through each challenge stronger than the last. 

Via
Life can really kick you in the teeth at times, and your choices are to either lie down and let it....or to get up and move on. I always chose to move on. 

Get up, get out, get away from the situation - DO something! Make a change, for the better! Don't wait for someone to save you - save yourself!

Via
I am not a 'woe is me' mentality. I am not one to talk something to death...but rather, I retreat into myself, figure out what I need to do, and DO IT. I don't need permission, and I don't need anyone to justify my actions. It's my life, and I will live it my way. 


I guess I've always been a strong person - and they say He never gives you more than you can handle. 

There were times I wished He didn't trust me to handle so much at one time!
Via
But I always got through.  And you can, too. 

Believe in yourself - you are stronger than you know. 

31 comments:

  1. I love your grit girl !! I have had to make myself strong many times . I hope it has helped my daughters be tough when they have to be....without being mean..But if it takes mean to escape a bad life, I would rather they be mean than whipped. LOL. I hate conflict too. I hate having knots in my stomach because I am right and someone is beating me down....so once I got the power to stand up for myself, I refuse to be a whipping post. You and I need to start a club. LOL You got me started on a heartfelt subject. Bless you, xoxo, Susie

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    1. You hit the nail on the head, Susie - strong, not mean!! I refuse to be bullied or guilt tripped into a situation - it takes strength to stand up for yourself, and sometimes even more strength to walk away!

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  2. This hit home. I am in a situation with a family member now. I thought that we had worked things out, but over the last few years I knew we had not. A few weeks ago she lashed out and now we are not talking. I have done alot of soul searching and decided that I cannot change the past and you have to move on when you have tried your best to make things right.

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    1. I've been trying to write this post for a few days...it's so difficult when family is torn apart, it breaks my heart. However, it's reality - family has a bond that is like no other, but that doesn't mean they have to see eye to eye on everything. We need to respect each other's differences and opinions.

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    2. Betty, my heart aches for you too. I understand because we too have conflict within our family and there are a few that lash out and try to turn everyone against each other. Some of the most horrible things you could ever say to a sibling were said to my husband. They hurt him deeply and he now realizes that there can never be a relationship with that one sibling because she holds onto her anger and bitterness like a badge of honor. It's sad.

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  3. Thank you for this! I've passed this on to a friend who is going through a particularly difficult marital situation. I know it will help! ;)

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    1. I had to walk away from my marriage and my home because I finally realized I couldn't change my now ex-husband. I thought for years that I could control his drinking, but you know what? Only HE can control his drinking, and he refuses to. So, I changed what I could....my situation. It was very difficult, but my life is far less stressful now than it was then. Never again will I go into a relationship thinking "oh, they will change, they will grow out of it." NOPE - doesn't happen! I hope this helps your friend, Donnamae - she can feel free to email me if I can be of any help to her. xo

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  4. Each of us handles stress in our own way, but it sounds like you have found a healthy way to deal with it. It is important that we don't bury it inside and let it fester. xo Laura

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    1. I guess my way is healthy for me, Laura - maybe not for everyone. We all have to find our own peace, and that means different things to different people.

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  5. Things always work out better when we trust our own way of dealing with things. One of my favorite (self-created) mottos is "I had to be there, to get here". It helps me during the dark days of life.
    Peace...

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    1. Oh, that's a good one, Daisy, and soooooo true!!!!! Thank you for sharing that!

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  6. Stress once ruled my life. Now I've learned to let so much of it go. As they say, most of it never happens anyway.
    Brenda

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    1. I have also learned to let much go, and to steer clear of negative people whenever possible. There are so many wonderful moments in everyday lift to be grateful for, and it's so distressing to listen to someone who simply sees the negative.

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    1. Thanks, Lorraine - perhaps they will spark someone to make the change they need to!

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  8. Inspirational post, thank you for it. Today I'm particularly drawn to one of your quotes: What feels like the end is often the beginning. We see that over and over in life, don't we?

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    1. We truly do, Dewena, although at times it's difficult to see through the storm that there is a brighter day ahead.

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  9. Nice post..I had a chuckle comparing some of it to the current political situation. I see on your sidebar that you did get a Jean Hersey book ..hope that you like her as much as Gladys Tabor.
    IF you like that old stuff I'd next recommend checking in to D.E Stevens :) Oh my, her books are collector items now.. some reasonable, some more expensive...but anyway, check her out if you like the old-fashioned stuff :)

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    1. Thanks, Deb! I do like Jean Hersey's book, perhaps not quite as much as Gladys Taber, but it's close! I'll be checking out your other suggestion now....and keep them coming! :)

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  10. This was a good post, dear, and I know it will help someone. That is a great quote that would have served me well at one time! You go girl!
    Be a sweetie,
    Shelia ;)

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    1. Thanks, sweet Shelia! I do hope it helps someone....we all need a little boost every now and again, don't you think?

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  11. This is such a good, encouraging post and I know someone who would appreciate reading it. Sometimes it's hard to let go of things that happened in the past, but we just have to.

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    1. If I held onto grudges for everything that's happened to me in the past I'd never get out of bed! I am finding out that my way of thinking is not everyone's, however, and although I can't change those folks I can pray they get the help they need to work through those grudges.

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  12. Awesome post! Wise words! Fabulous quotes! You rock!

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    1. Wow, thanks!! Sounds like you're a super positive person, love it!!

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  13. Did you write this for me, friend? It was very timely. I am like you: positive in nature and don't like conflict and today I very much needed a little nudge to completely let go of the bad feelings about a friendship that went south. Thank you. I hope you have a lovely Sunday. You have made mine a little brighter.

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    1. I am so glad that I was able to put a spring in your step today, sweet Jen! Sending hugs your way so you find your inner strength today when you are needing it! xo

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  14. Excellent post! The graphics enhance your words. Who has the time or energy to be around negative people?! Love your positive attitude!

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    1. Thank you so much, Donna! And right back at ya - I love YOUR positive attitude!! :)

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  15. Deborah, I loved this post. As you can see, it really did touch hearts and help many of the wonderful people who read your blog. :) You know the situation with my husband's siblings. Things got even worse this weekend, with his parents failing health and some observations by our niece and her family that are visiting. I fear we may be to the point where we will need to step in legally to get my husband's parents the help they need to keep them safe despite my husband's sibling who lives with them trying to block that every step of the way.

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    1. I'm so sorry, Debbie - family drama can be draining, to say the least. I pray that things will work out for the best with your hubby's family - xo

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